Here are the benefits of self-leadership…
Our Choice Life Approach model and strategy helps you build the courage to actualize your aspirations, reach your goals in life in spite of your self-doubt. You learn to develop your self-leadership ability which is your ability to influence your own thoughts and behaviours. Your ability to improve your life and go in the direction you want to go in.
Developing essential qualities of your self-leadership ability such as self-esteem, self-respect, self-reliance/trust, self-confidence, self-motivation and self-determination is key to living a meaningful, rewarding and happy life. These essential qualities allow you the emotional way forward.
Your self-leadership ability gives you the freedom to decide the way you perceive, and want to experience life.
Self-leadership creates a sense of agency that encourages you to make positive choices that motivate forward momentum towards creating meaningful and rewarding experiences, that eventually become a life filled with fulfillment and happiness.
Self-leadership helps dissolve old patterns of repression and encourages self-expression.
Developing key self-leadership qualities such as:
Self-esteem – this is having an overall positive healthy attitude about your self-worth and life in general.
Self-confidence – this is trusting your own personal judgement to achieve your goals, what you plan to achieve in life.
Self-reliance – this is your trust in your abilities and efforts as a person to be able to accomplish these goals for yourself in life.
Self-respect – this is a feeling of pride for what you accomplish in life because you act with honour and dignity towards yourself and others in life.
Self-motivation – this is your enthusiasm and ability to do what needs to get done without any influence from others, even when challenged.
Self-determination – this is your ability of being able to be goal-oriented and make decisions based on your own choices and interests in life.
Once you’ve achieved your level of comfort within these key qualities, you let go of ‘being’ who you were and become who you are meant to be. Time to get out there and create new experiences, explore new possibilities – you know… have some fun, fall in love, take a trip, learn a new language, take a course of your choice, etc.
Asking yourself the following questions gets
you going on the right path:
→ Knowing the kind of life I presently have, what would I like instead?
→ What would I like to feel at this very moment?
→ What would I like to change in my life?
→ What do I need to let go of in my life?
→ What do I want to welcome in my life – bring into my life?
Our guidance is required to first define what ‘being happy’ means to you. In other words, what you really aspire to achieve in order to live a fulfilling and happy life.
For example, one reason you may think you want to develop your self-esteem, self-respect, self-reliance/trust, and self-confidence is to be appreciated and respected by others. If you have failed thus far, perhaps it’s because the deeper reason behind your need is that you want to be accepted for who you are. It is an authentic need for all of us. You want to learn how to let go of what no longer serves you in life such as limited beliefs and fears such as guilt, shame, anxiety, rejection, abandonment, jealousy, resentment, anger, loneliness, etc., and want people to see your beauty, your special skills – in other words, your special gift in life.
Another example could be that you may think you want to develop your self-esteem, self-respect, self-confidence, self-motivation and self determination in order to lose the weight you’ve always wanted to lose? Could the deeper reason behind your need for wanting to lose weight be you want to feel and be healthy. Your want to feel comfortable in your own skin. You want to buy new clothes that make you feel younger. All of these reasons would make your feel confident as a person, applying for a new job, meeting a new partner, starting a new relationship or friendship, falling in love and sharing your life with someone, being able to enjoy activities in nature or when exploring and sightseeing during your travels, or simply to try new adventures in life.
As human beings, we sometimes confuse goals along the process with realizing our actual aspirations/dreams in life which ultimately is to be happy.
Sometimes, our assistance is needed to develop self-esteem. self-respect and self-confidence to find the courage to let go of friendships or relationships that no long serve us. Relationships that are toxic or we have simply outlived. Self-reliance/self-trust is required to show compassion and forgiveness in order to forgive ourselves and others before being able to take the necessary steps to move forward in life.
Don’t do it alone.
Let us help you make the changes you want to make in life.
It starts with you investing in yourself.
Don’t wait until tomorrow, start today. You deserve it.
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