Change is in the very fabric of life itself. Change is woven throughout our life from the moment we are born, we start changing. Nature constantly changes. Our whole planet, universe has been changing – evolving for billions of years. Although we know everything follows certain cycles and rhythms – the sun will rise and set each day, the ocean tides will ebb and flow each day, nature’s seasons will change, etc., for most of us, welcoming change as a positive experience or event in our lives is against our core beliefs.
Here’s the thing! Change is not a negative word, feeling or place. Yes, it does get you out of your comfort zone and it can create feelings that elicit insecurities and fears such as anxiety, guilt, shame, rejection, abandonment, sadness, depression, loneliness, jealousy, resentment, anger, etc., but if you think about it, the actual experience of change is but a moment in time. Of course, a significant change in your life can create a sequence of changes – moments. But that doesn’t mean that the sequence of changes that follow a significant change will all be negative.
In fact, it is through change that we all evolve. Your duty, your responsibility as a human being, a person is to decide how long the emotions(s) you’ve attached to the change in your life will last. Especially if the change causes you insecurities and fears. Try and see beyond the period of discomfort and not get ‘stuck’ in it. Since you have no choice but to experience it, go through it, and learn from it. Make a choice to evolve from it as an individual. Your choice to move forward will have you in control of your life – will have you self-lead your life. The opposite means you relinquished control of your life to an external factor, experience or individual.
We all know that life is not a dress rehearsal. We all know that we simply cannot rely on just ‘dressing the part’ and expect to accomplish all of our goals and dreams in life – either personal or professional. Granted ‘dressing the part’ can make us temporarily feel good inside – boost, even heighten our self-esteem, self-confidence, self-motivation and self-determination but it is only temporary. ‘Dressing the part’ cannot deepen our self-trust/reliance nor strengthen our self-respect. These qualities are as fundamental as the others to feeling whole and ready to take on life ‘whole-heartedly’ and ‘soul-fully’. In other words, being able to feel and express our authenticity – our uniqueness, our passions in life, what makes you… you.
Don’t get me wrong, ‘dressing the part’ is ok. It gets you ‘feeling’ better by releasing important ‘feel good’ chemicals within your physical body. But in order for you to grow, evolve as a person, you will need to dig a little deeper and show more than your external persona to the world because the rest of us need to learn along side of you as you need to learn along side of us. Get up in the morning and make sure to share some parts of your internal persona – your strengths and weaknesses, your interests, knowledge, experiences, needs, wants, goals and dreams with someone during the day. Don’t worry about when and where to share, you don’t need to seek out the moment because it will present itself to you. Someone will cross your path needing a little advice, a little reinforcement and you’ll be there. The same will happen for you when you need a little encouragement. Life happens when we let go of trying to control it. No dress rehearsal needed!
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