Creating the life changes you want to make.
HERE’S WHAT WE KNOW:
If making the change you want to make in life is important to you, you’ll make it happen. If it’s not important, you’ll continue to find excuses because we all know that it’s a lot easier to continue to doubt ourselves than to face our fears and take action. The problem is the more you focus on doubting yourself, the more your brain mirrors it back to you. The choice is yours. But ultimately, isn’t there only one choice to make… to be happy in life.
The power behind the changes in your life is your ability as a person to make choices in life. This is your ability, as a sentient human being, to decide how to perceive and experience situations throughout your life. It is your ability to choose if a situation will or will not affect how you feel.
It is extremely important to understand the impact of choices you make and their ripple effect in your daily life. Remember… choosing happiness in life is a choice. Choosing to not make a choice is also a choice – a choice to do nothing.
Choices you make are influenced by your thoughts. It is important to be aware of the difference between thoughts emanating from your physical three-brain system and those coming from your mind – thoughts that emanate from the heart of your soul (your intuition – internal awareness). Thoughts coming from your mind are born out of your personal values. These thoughts are the principles we live by – our individual authenticity. Thoughts coming from your physical brain are born from your beliefs as well as adopted beliefs from family, friends and society. These thoughts are opinions, beliefs that are recorded as information and emotions to assist and protect us. It is important to realize that beliefs can be empowering or limiting, divisive and judgmental.
The choices you make on a daily basis affect your behaviours, your ability to establish a resilient life structure based on healthy boundaries, and your ability to self-lead your life.
Here’s a simple formula that you will come across throughout this website and that I encourage you to remember as it will serve you well in life: making authentic choices based on your personal values + practicing self-leadership on a daily basis = the courage to welcoming change in your behaviours, and experiencing happiness in your life. Why? Because all this will help you face your fears, address your insecurities, vulnerabilities, and have you set and accomplish goals and realize your dreams in life.
I know c-h-a-n-g-e is not easy. But here’s what I want to do for you. I want to transform the way you ‘feel’ about experiencing c-h-a-n-g-e in your life. What do you say? Are you willing to give it a try? OK, awesome! Let’s continue. If you think of ‘changes’ in life as a way to experience and learn new things in life, you might not fear change as much as you do. In fact, thinking this way just might reduce anxiety in your life. In fact, imagine a world where nature would not renew itself – no changing in the seasons, no new crops, no newness – all would be static. I know, a little scary isn’t it? My point is change is how everything evolves in life. Keep reading there’s so much more to learn about change. I’m excited! You?
The power behind your choices in life is your courage – your ability to do something though it frightens you. Courage to change what you want to change in your life is having the courage to let go of who you are to become who you want and are meant to be in life.
When you choose to develop courage in life, you make a commitment to start believing in yourself. The more you believe in yourself, the more self-confident and courageous you become. You start projecting an image of yourself to others that says: “I am worthy of creating experiences that bring me joy in life. I am not afraid of relationships or friendships because I trust that I can make well-informed decisions. I know that I have a lot of happiness to share with someone. I’m motivated to make changes in my life that will inspire me to become who I’ve always known myself to be.”
This you must practice on a daily basis in order to better your life – accomplish your goals on the way to realize your dreams. There is no magic! But the feelings, the rewards you get from experiencing your life the way you want and choose to live it… there’s nothing like it! You sincerely experience what it is to be passionate, motivated, inspired and excited about creating your dreams. We all have dreams – a visceral sense of purpose. I know this is not news to any of you reading this but in order for your purpose to be actualized, it needs you to take the lead through your thoughts. In other words, the way you feel about yourself, the choices you make in life and the actions you take in life.
Yup, this means you’re going to have to be kind, patient and compassionate with yourself as you focus on trusting yourself and by being a learner in life rather than a judger. Tap into your childhood memories… how you learned one thing at a time, one word at a time, and one step at a time. If you want to live the life of your dreams, you’ll need to play the lead character in the story of your life my friend. You’ll need to be the main influencer for realizing each of your dreams. Why do I say ‘lead’ character and ‘main’ influencer? Simply because as you start moving towards your goals, the people and other related resources that are required to help you realize your dreams, will be placed on your path. Trust me, they will.
These people are there to ‘help’ you, not lead you to make authentic choices or take appropriate actions. They will assist you in reaching your dreams by providing support – mentally, spiritually and physically. You, my friend, are responsible to tell them what you need and to provide them with a roadmap to follow so that they stay on course. In other words, you’re the driver and they are the passengers in your vehicle. They are riding with you because their journey through life requires you to help them accomplish their goals and realize their dreams.
The power behind your courage in life comes from your ability to ‘self’ lead your life. Why self-leadership? Because it is key to experiencing personal happiness and fulfilling relationships, and achieving goals and dreams in life.
ON A DAILY BASIS.
Self-leadership is an ability we are all born with. It is instinctive – an innate potential we all have to consciously influence our thoughts and behaviours in order to accomplish goals that lead to realizing our dreams in life.
Developing your self-leadership ability in life initiates a sense of agency that motivates forward momentum to help you create meaningful and rewarding experiences that are based on your own values in life. Skillfully developing key qualities of your self-leadership ability such as self-esteem, self-respect, self-reliance/trust, self-confidence, self-motivation and self-determination is essential to living a fulfilling and happy life. Once you achieve your level of comfort within these key qualities, you let go of being who you were and become who you are meant to be.
Terrified of failing? You’re not alone. If you believe that the risk of failing, facing fears and insecurities is too much for you to handle, I’m here to tell you that this is called owning your life. Being responsible for living your life. I don’t mean to be harsh, I simply know that if I was able to do this, so can you. Trust me you can. Better yet, trust yourself – your inner strength that has brought you here to my website today. If facing your fears, vulnerabilities on your own is too difficult, ask for help – mine or someone else’s. That’s what human beings are suppose to do – help each other achieve our goals and realize our dreams in life so that we can share the best version of ourselves with others.
The power behind abolishing the hold our fears have on us is owning our life – being responsible for our thoughts and actions. This means facing our fears by naming (acknowledging) them, and reframing our thoughts (changing what our physical brain is telling us to do) around each fear.
Facing our fears,
vulnerabilities have us
move forward in life.
If you prefer playing the part of a victim, blaming everyone else around you, your upbringing, situations you find yourself in, etc… I suggest you listen up. We all have stories to tell. We all have past experiences – some positive, some negative. How about living our lives in the present and ensuring that our stories have happy outcomes. Honestly, asking ourselves how can we live in the present if all we think about are past experiences – how we’ve been wronged in the past. Why waist valuable time in the present about something we cannot change. Why keep feeding negative experiences from our past when we need to nourish our mental and physical energy to create what is in our heart and soul. The past is the past. It’s over with and we can’t change it.
So I ask you to choose to change at this very moment from being a victim of your past negative experiences, and start self-leading your life by being present on a daily basis, taking one step at a time towards accomplishing one goal at a time as you start realizing your dreams in life. You can do it. You totally can! Learn more on how you can achieve this!
Asking yourself the following questions gets you going on the right path:
→ Knowing the kind of life I presently have, what would I like instead?
→ Knowing how I feel at this very moment, what would I like to feel instead?
→ What would I like to change in my life?
→ What do I need to let go of in my life?
→ What do I want to welcome in my life – bring into my life?
Asking for help is a strength not a weakness…
Our guidance is required to first define what ‘being happy’ means to you. In other words, what you really aspire to achieve in order to live a fulfilling and happy life. As human beings, we sometimes confuse goals along the process with realizing our actual aspirations/dreams in life which ultimately is to be happy.
We hold fun and life changing events where we show people how to reconnect with their values in life – what makes them feel respected, appreciated, loved and understood. Check out our booklets and find out more about how our process helps people achieve their goals and realize our dreams in life.
The following is a glossary referencing words appearing within our work and tools on the pages of this website. It is provided for ease of reference and to facilitate your reading.
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