Fear itself comes from our external awareness – our brain’s limbic system (emotional brain which supports a variety of functions including emotions, behaviours, motivation, etc.). Now remember, courage comes from within us, from our internal awareness where our ability to consciously influence our thoughts and behaviours resides.

In essence, fears are extrinsic stories and patterns we created or adopted from our families, friends, society as a whole. In fact, our emotional brain keeps repeating our fear patterns for a very simple reason – because it recorded those at a time we were challenged in life and every time it senses we are in similar situations, it wants to protect us by reminding us of the original emotion felt at that specific time. Agreeing with such patterns take us down the path of least resistance and hold us back in life. Recognizing these patterns for what they are may be difficult but with practice possible by reminding ourselves of our ability to consciously influence our thoughts and behaviours, and by establishing resilient boundaries supported by positive thinking and proactive language.


Acknowledging your fear (naming it), and reframing your thoughts (what your brain is thinking and telling you).  Imagine the event or situation that is making you feel uncomfortable or agitated, as done, over with, and already in the past.  Focus your thoughts on an event that brings you joy and makes you feel excited, scheduled to take place in the near future.  You know you can do this because you know how to anchor your thoughts in what you value in life – how to focus on what is important to you in life.  You won’t let limiting beliefs, fears or self-doubt get in the way of the person you know yourself to be.  You’ve developed key self-leadership qualities and easy strategies that help you stay present and balanced in life.

You know you’ve got this, trust in your ability to accomplish anything your mind sets your brain to do!  We all deserve a life filled with happiness – a life that is meaningful and rewarding.  A life that gives and that is not afraid to receive.  Don’t judge future experiences from your past experiences.  Why?  Because each one of them is different and has something to teach you.  Remember life is about evolving so don’t be a judger, be a learner!

Here are very interesting and thought-provoking quotes for all of us to ponder:

Fear, to a great extent, is born of a story we tell ourselves, and so I choose to tell myself a different story… I decided I was safe. I was strong. I was brave. Nothing could vanquish me.  Bravery is acknowledging your fear and doing it anyways. -Cheryl Strayed

You have to do what you dream of doing even while you’re afraid – Arianna Huffington